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- Did you discover your endometriosis following a miscarriage?
- During those 2 years, before going to see a doctor and getting the medication, did you not seek any other medical help?
- You tell me that you have endometriosis in the uterus and bladder, you didn't have any symptoms associated with that?
- With your first child, did you get pregnant easily?
- How did you experience the diagnosis? Was it a relief? What was going on in your head? a>
- After that, did you go straight into a PMA course? What happened after the diagnosis?
- How long will this journey last before you become pregnant?
- How did you find out about your pregnancy?
- Was your first trimester more difficult than for your first child with the fear of miscarriage?
- Didn't these fears go away after the first trimester, which we can consider to be more at risk?
- What would you say to a woman who has just discovered she has endometriosis and is wondering about motherhood?
Did you discover your endometriosis following a miscarriage?
Exactly, last summer in 2022, following several years of trying for a 2nd baby , I went to see my GP who finally gave me medication to help me get pregnant, and I got pregnant the month of 'After. So I said to myself great, I just needed this medication for it to work. Except that in fact, the pregnancy was not viable, we didn't really know if it was a miscarriage or an ectopic pregnancy , it was a bit complicated. After a few days, the doctor told me that he was going to operate on me to remove what needed to be removed.
Leaving the operating room, he told me that he removed it, that there wasn't much left, however, he spent more time than expected in the operation because he removed all my endometriosis . So I was surprised and I asked him for more explanations, since I didn't know anything ! And even he was surprised because I didn't tell him about it when we met. And actually, that's when we realized that I had endometriosis everywhere inside the uterus and in the bladder and I didn't know it, because it was so behind my feminine device so that we couldn't see it with an ultrasound or anything. No doctor had asked me this question during my baby trial journey.
And at the same time, we realized that my sister also has it at a very high stage and she is very affected, knowing that my mother has adenomyosis. So from that moment I told myself that this is probably why I haven't been able to have my second child, for almost 2 and a half years.
During those 2 years, before going to see a doctor and getting the medication, did you not seek any other medical help?
Medically, no, I just went to see my gynecologist after a year of trying , who told me it's nothing, it's normal, that it takes time. Then after 2 years of trying, where I was left completely alone in my journey, I went to see another gynecologist who told me not to panic and that it would come after a while .
I also went to see a fertility specialist , who, in hindsight I realized, never asked me if I could have endometriosis. However, she is a woman and she is supposed to be a fertility specialist so she asked me all the questions I needed, I answered everything and for me everything was good, but she never spoke to me endometriosis.
You tell me that you have endometriosis in the uterus and bladder, you didn't have any symptoms associated with that?
I have always had the symptoms, that is to say that since I was 16, I have always had bleeding periods and enormous pain , but for me it was normal, as all women are told. my age for 10 years who have their period, “you have a stomach ache, it’s normal, you have your period”. My mother also had bleeding periods, and so did my sister, so for me it ran in the family and I always told myself that it was like that. So, when my sister's illness was discovered, several years ago, I had just had my first daughter and my mother asked me if I wanted to take the tests too, but I managed to fall easily pregnant so I don't see why I would have endometriosis, for me the subject was closed.
With your first child, did you get pregnant easily?
Yes, for my daughter, I stopped the pill that I had been taking for 16 years and 6 months later I was pregnant . For 10 years I took the same microdosed pill , I had regular cycles, it wasn't a problem so when I stopped and I got pregnant after "barely" 6 months, even though At the moment it seems long, it's very quick for a first baby.
How did you experience the diagnosis? Was it a relief? What was going on in your head?
Yes, it was a big relief because I said to myself that this is an answer to the question we have been asking ourselves for 2 years, why it doesn't work when all the exams were good so it relieved me to be able to to put a word on that and to be able to explain my bleeding periods, the low iron levels, the fatigue, all the symptoms that I had had for years and that I had trivialized in my routine because for me it was normal.After that, did you go straight into a PMA course? What happened after the diagnosis?
That's it, the gynecologist who operated on me directly told me that I was 32 years old , that I hadn't been able to have children for more than 2 and a half years, that I have endometriosis even if it is 90% burned , it is still there. He advised me to go directly to the PMA course . So for 3 months, he gave me a medication again which did not work and then from January 2023, I went directly into the PMA course so appointments with gynecologists, monthly visits, blood tests, etc… during several months. Because due to my age and my illness, I entered the PMA course “more easily” “thanks” to endometriosis.How long will this journey last before you become pregnant?
I returned to the course in January 2023, it lasted until July 2023, I had my first injections to be able to boost my ovulation and to be able to be punctured. So in mid-July I had a puncture, they created embryos. Then, at the end of July, they implanted one in me and I had the famous 2 weeks of waiting and after 2 weeks, I had my period so I told myself that it wouldn't last, and for The blow at that moment was truly horrible and heartbreaking to live with because I told myself that because of the illness, it wouldn't last. So on August 1st , I got my period and at the end of August, I was waiting for our next peak to be able to take injections again and do an embryo transfer again, because I still had 1 of the 2 left. And finally, 10 days after my period on August 1 , I got pregnant naturally .My doctor thinks that the treatment worked because I had injections for 10 days, 3 times a day, with high doses so when it boosted ovulation, I had almost 16 utero oocytes . And when they took samples from me, they only took the best ones and they only took 8. So my doctor told me that there must have been 8 "good" ones left which must have left quietly but it was enough that he Only one left and it works. So I've been pregnant since this summer.
How did you find out about your pregnancy?
I was waiting to be able to tell my gynecologist so that I could start the next embryo implantation protocol and as I had my period on August 1st, it was easy for me to calculate, on August 29th I should have had my rules. But on August 29 nothing, August 30 still nothing, I told myself that it was weird all the same and I took pregnancy tests to free myself psychologically by telling myself that I was not pregnant and trigger my period . Even though in August I told myself that it was impossible, I would never get pregnant, I wouldn't have another one, because an embryo was still implanted inside me and it didn't work. didn't work. So I take the test and it's positive , so I don't believe it and I do 3 more just in case, and after the fourth I tell myself that yes, it's definitely positive. I then waited until the next day to take my blood test because it was the weekend and the blood test needed to be confirmed. I did lots of it for a week and a half because I was afraid it would repeat the same case as my miscarriage and in the end it worked and now it's growing in my belly!Was your first trimester more difficult than for your first child with the fear of miscarriage?
Yes, a lot, especially when you have already experienced one. In addition I had totally different symptoms from my first pregnancy and not very fun, I was very sick and very afraid as soon as I went to the toilet, each time I had to check the paper twice, so yes very very very scared. Getting pregnant again after a miscarriage is very distressing, much more so than a natural or normal pregnancy. And even now! I'm 6 months old and I'm still scared every time I go to the gynecologist, I feel my daughter moving every day but I'm still scared of bad news.Didn't these fears go away after the first trimester, which we can consider to be more at risk?
They have faded a little and I am lucky to have a medical team around me who understands me and is very attentive and so I do ultrasounds every month on purpose because my doctor is very well understood that I was very stressed and so every month, every time I go there, he tells me everything is going to be fine, and as soon as he does the ultrasound, the first thing he does, it's to see if everything is okay and tell me that everything is okay! So that reassures me, but no , these are not fears that are 100% gone , I think they will be there until she is with us and I see her.What would you say to a woman who has just discovered she has endometriosis and is wondering about motherhood?
To hold on, and let miracles happen. But also to surround yourself with a really strong medical team because there are doctors who don't ask the right questions (like the specialist I saw for infertility). So try to surround yourself with the best possible medical team around you. Don't be afraid to talk about it too because it's when we talk about it around us to friends, strangers or others, and that's when we realize that we are suffering enormously from this illness and that we are not alone.
