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- The arrival of a child and its consequences on the couple
- Before the baby is born: agree on the main points
- Take some time together
- Sexuality after baby
- Take some time for yourself
- The importance of little touches
- Let go of the ballast
The arrival of a child and its consequences on the couple
In the collective imagination, the arrival of a baby unites the couple: after all, what could be more beautiful than starting a family with your other half? In reality, the facts can be quite different: tensions appear, the couple forgets each other due to lack of time , incomprehension sets in... Because the future parents are poorly prepared for what awaits them, because the couple was already fragile before birth, because new responsibilities await them or because fatigue complicates everything... The couple after baby often takes second place, and it is important to stay on the same wavelength and continue to form a couple, a team with your other half.
Before the baby is born: agree on the main points
Communication is essential within the couple and it is important, even before giving birth, to discuss your future family life and agree on the broad outlines.
What education are you going to give your child? How do you see your days? How are you going to organize yourself? For example, you can think about the distribution of tasks after the baby arrives, about the childcare solutions available to you if you want to go out as a couple: the grandparents are perhaps willing to look after their little child, or Well, will you have to get a babysitter?
It's important to find a balance - it will be different for different couples, adjustable over time, it doesn't matter, all that matters is that this new arrangement suits you both and doesn't drain its lot. of frustrations.
The goal ? Avoid the baby clash, these tensions and conflicts that can appear in the couple after the birth of a baby.
Take some time together
Sometimes easier said than done, we grant you that! It's important to get together regularly, whether it's to go out for dinner, go for a walk or simply to spend some quiet time at home. Define the right frequency, according to your possibilities: for example, a restaurant every month, and do everything you can to keep this good resolution.
Sexuality after baby
You have just given birth, you have a close relationship with your baby, who, perhaps, sleeps next to you as a co-sleeper, you have opted for breastfeeding... your libido is taking a hit and sexual relations are perhaps not not be your priority (and this is understandable). Many young mothers need time and prefer to wait a few weeks before resuming a sex life. Other mothers will have a renewed libido and discover new sensations.
It's important to talk with your partner to make sure you're on the same page or at least understand each other.
Take some time for yourself
With the birth of a baby, you automatically became a “mother”. But this new role should not eclipse the woman you were before. A flabbier stomach, extra pounds, a little cellulite... Some women feel undesirable post-partum and are not comfortable with this new body of a young mother. Take the time to pamper yourself , to put on makeup if you want, to feel feminine and love your new image. If you feel good about yourself, it will affect your relationship.
The importance of little touches
And since we're talking about seduction, let's also talk about little touches and nice gestures intended for your other half. Give him a small gift, surprise him, cook a nice dinner, or simply kiss him and take him in your arms: tenderness and affection are cultivated every day and you can easily show him how much you care. to him/her.
Let go of the ballast
After giving birth, young parents must get their bearings. A new role awaits them, and new tasks fall to them: caring for the baby (bathing, feeding, dressing, calming its cries, etc.) involves new gestures and new habits, sometimes time-consuming, with which they must get familiar with.
With hormones playing tricks – sometimes going so far as to trigger postpartum depression – the fatigue that sets in, the broken nights, the slightest annoyance can take on enormous proportions. So let go of the ballast if your partner doesn't react as you would have liked, or doesn't do "as well as you": it takes a little time and indulgence for everyone to get their bearings, even more so if they This is a first child.
With a little effort and above all communication, you will soon find this new balance in which the couple and the parents live together for a peaceful and successful family life.
Source :
(1) Dr Bernard Geberowicz, co-author of the book Baby-cl
